My girlfriend of 1 year squirted for the first time ever and it freaked me out. It was messy and felt weird for me. I wasn’t finished yet, but she asked me to stop because it was too sensitive for her. The next time we were having sex, she asked me to make it happen again. I’m not into it, how do I prevent this from happening again? – Shane

Charlsie Says: This is one of those tricky things – you hated it, she loved it. She’s asking for more, but you’re asking for it to never happen again. If you tell her you aren’t into it or that it grossed you out, she’s going to probably feel embarrassed about this happening in the first place – and that is going to backfire. Saying that you want to prevent it from ocurring again makes you sound like you’re not interested in her own pleasure, which, in all honesty, sounds selfish. Think of it this way: if you came and she said to you “Well honey, that was messy and it felt weird for me. I think I’m going to make sure that doesn’t happen again,” you would flip out and lose your mind.

She’s been your girlfriend for a year, and this was the first time. Now I don’t know if this is going to become a frequent thing, but if it happens again, I don’t think you can necessarily be mad about her doing so; she can’t completely control it . But if she’s asking for it and you don’t feel comfortable, say so or subtly suggest your discomfort.

Whatever you do, don’t make her feel embarrassed or ashamed, or expect your sex life to go down the drain. If the mess bothers you, I’d get creative with where this takes place. Try a bubble bath or the shower. Or just put a towel down. If you don’t want to aid her on the quest to squirt while being inside of her, try doing so with your fingers or toys. I think you’re going to have a problem if you avoid anything and everything that could possibly make this girl let go again. Should you tell her you’re uncomfortable with this? I don’t know — you have me stumped.

Personally though, I think you should just invest in a raincoat and an umbrella, and get over it.

I’ve never hooked up with a girl that has pubic hair. They’ve all been completely bare. I’m okay with this, but I am curious as to what it would be like with a woman who has a little hair or a lot of hair down there. So, I want to know what is your opinion on pubic hair and why do girls take so much concern over this? – Maxwell

Charlsie Says: Pubic hair is a personal preference. I rock what makes me feel comfortable – boyfriend or not, it generally remains the same. However, some girls are very, very worried about whether or not their hair down there will be up to par with their partner’s expectations. If you look at the porn industry, it’s very rare that women have pubic hair. And since porn is often a man’s first exposure to sex, the expectation that women should be hairless is kinda set. While you may be seeking a romp in the sheets with a hairy muff, a lot of guys are extremely repulsed by this. So just as I think women should make their own personal preferences about whether or not they want a full-on Brazilian or a heart-shaped patch of fluff, men have their own opinions on having hair or using Nair (which I hope no female ever uses down there).

Unfortunately, I’ve heard stories where girls have been in mid-hook up when the guy says “You have hair? That is disgusting,” and the whole night is ruined. Last time I checked, sex with or without hair doesn’t drastically change anything. When hooking up with a girl, you probably shouldn’t make comments about the appearance of her vagina whatsoever. But moments like that definitely cause a little bit of concern for women, which could be why a lot of girls just keep it shaved – so there isn’t any chance for a guy to make a comment. If you like hair down there, express it. Find out what makes her comfortable and be supportive of that because in the bedroom, it all functions the same with or without hair. Good luck on your pubic hair expedition!

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Do girls remember who they’ve hooked up with? Or do they remember just being with boyfriends? – John

Charlsie Says: You better believe we remember who we’ve hooked up with. I remember every guy, whether it was just a sneaky frat house kiss or a full-on night of marathon sex – boyfriend or not. Do I keep a detailed Excel spreadsheet documenting the boys of the past? No way, but while I might not recall all the details (unless you were really, really good or embarrassingly awful), I do remember names, places, faces and a few juicy details.

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How do I get my friends and girlfriend to hang out? – Richie

Charlsie Says: It’s a good sign that you want the people in your life to mingle together. I would recommend doing group activities such as bowling or attending some kind of sporting event all together. When there is a main attraction (i.e: the game), it gives you something to focus on while still being able to let go and have fun. It’s a good way to hang out without forcing it too much. Barbeques and parties are also good ways to let people get to know each other. However, if it’s a dude-fest and she’s the only girl, it might feel weird… so encourage your bromances to bring along their girlfriends or other lady friends. Bottom line is: as long as you aren’t awkward about your friends and girlfriend hanging out, there shouldn’t be any weirdness.